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15 August 2007 @ 02:45 pm
I hate it when people talk behind my back.
Assuming that they've done so, of course.  I don't actually know, because, like, it was behind my back, ya know?

Actually, there's a better than even chance that no such thing happened.  And if it did happen, my life would be better if I just ignored it.  But I'd rather grouch.

What really needs to happen is that I need to go for a long, long walk.  2.3 miles, that's the plan (and since I'm a slow walker, that will take me almost an hour).  By the time I'm back, chances are I won't be grouchy any more.

Is that spoiling a good grouch?
ex_serenejo on August 15th, 2007 06:57 pm (UTC)
Personally, I choose to embrace the knowledge that people talk about me when I'm not around. I know I talk about *them*. Heck, if I weren't interesting, no one would bother. :-)
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kmdkmd on August 15th, 2007 09:13 pm (UTC)
Ok, icon LOVE. I don't know why. I just knowt: icon love. Where from???
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betonicabetonica on August 15th, 2007 10:14 pm (UTC)
Heh. If people are saying good things behind my back (or out of my hearing in whatever way), I'm not likely to be bothered. (Well, if I have no idea it's happening, I'm not likely to be bothered regardless...). It's if I have this suspicion that people are planning parts of my future (or planning for things not to be in my future) without me knowing that I get concerned. Might not have been the case. But I don't know and that's what's bugging me.

There's always the option of asking said people point blank whether anything's up. Would they tell me, I wonder? I think I'll just be quiet and hope to distract myself with something else.
offcenter_wcoffcenter_wc on August 16th, 2007 12:28 pm (UTC)
Talking behind your back?


For a second there, I thought you had found out about a certain Army surplus Predator drone with hi-res cameras where the missiles used to be that's orbiting somewhere really really close. Now that would be worth a good grouch.

BTW, the cat food dish looks kinda empty. HTH!

(Anonymous) on August 16th, 2007 01:48 pm (UTC)
As long as you're noticing the cat dish, is there anything you can do about my 14yo decrepit cat? He's really very wobbly. Perhaps a shout whenever he's about to not use his litter box? No, that won't work - he's deaf to all but a few high pitches.

And while you're out there, a few night pix of the fishercats and coyote would be cool. (I've got a night camera on the list for campus lab equipment - should be fun.)
betonicabetonica on August 16th, 2007 01:52 pm (UTC)

Ok, net experts. Why does LJ log me out at random moments? I wish there was something more obvious than the tiny line of type at the top of the screen to tell me I'm not logged in.

Selkiselki on August 17th, 2007 06:15 am (UTC)
Some ISPs randomly change customers' IP addresses (drawing your number from a "bank" or "pool"). I don't remember why. But that might be why LJ drops your/my login occasionally.
chesterburnettechesterburnette on August 16th, 2007 04:32 pm (UTC)
I picked up a book called something like _200 ways of dealing with difficult people_. The fact that I can't remember the exact title, or lay my hands on the book, is a sign that it didn't exactly change my life. But, there are a bunch of books out there like it, and that kind of book does have some useful strategies for dealing with backstabbers. What I liked about this book was that it didn't pretend that you can solve all interpersonal problems by talking directly and rationally to the person who is bothering you. (The person who backstabs in my department is so poisonous that I avoid her as much as possible--we can't have a rational conversation about the weather, let alone anything tricky.)

I can't always figure out the difference between gossiping and information-gathering. I think it's helpful to hear from others about problems they've had with people, especially since I can be kind of Pollyanna-ish about people.